Plenty of Good Apples

Apples are so delicious. I love apples. They are so healthy. Since they're full of Vitamin C they may help chase away colds. There are many different flavors of apples. My favorite ones are so fresh from the farm that they have a strong apple smell when I walk past. Occasionally there's a bad apple in the mix. You've seen them. There's just something bad that got inside and rotted the inside of the apple. Those apples might even look good on the outside but once they're cut into it's pretty obvious that something is wrong. These occasional bad apples have not lessened my enthusiasm for eating apples. An apple is still healthy and delicious to me.

This is just like marriage. Marriage is so wonderful. I love marriage. Marriage is healthy for the body and the spirit. Marriage is the best way to raise a family. I love a marriage that just works well for husband and wife. Occasionally there's a bad marriage. For some reason or another something bad gets in between the husband and wife. The marriage is horrible for one or both partners. The marriage might look alright to others, or it might be obviously broken to everyone at a glance, either way the couple knows it's not working. So, it's a bad marriage. These bad marriages do not lessen my excitement for marriage. Marriage is still wonderful to me. I love marriage.

Forgiving

Recently, Ryan and I got mad at each other. Then, after a cool down, I said sorry for not being patient with him. He said sorry for whatever he had done wrong(I can't remember now). We hugged and I felt so close to him. It felt really good to have a mutual apology. I'm not sure why that's a novel feeling after 17 years of marriage together. We haven't fought much and mostly just move on with life when we do. I have the motto that "It's more important to stay married than to be right". A simple apology from both of us was really a tender memory from me. I liked that and don't want to forget it.

Happiness

Happiness is letting go of what you think your 

marriage is supposed to look like

 and celebrating it for everything that it is.

This is taken from a Mandy Hale quote where "life" is in place of marriage. I think it works well for marriage too. Celebrate your marriage for what it is instead of what you think it's supposed to be.