"None of us marry perfection; we marry potential. The right marriage is not only about what I want; it’s also about what she—who’s going to be my companion—wants and needs me to be."
This is love, the real kind of love. Make your partner's needs become your own needs. In the ideal marriage this goes both ways. It's not something we think about much these days.
Remember that moment when you were little and found a person's wallet. It had a $20 bill in it. You took it to the principal's office. The owner was found and so happy that they gave you $10 back. Then, you both had a great day because of it. Okay, I don't remember that happening to me either. But, I'm sure it has happened to somebody. I know I've done similar things though and they have worked out for the benefit of both people involved.
Well, that's what this ideal marriage is supposed to be like. You find out your spouse has lost his wallet. You first feel like yelling at your spouse for being so irresponsible (I mean the credit cards to your own bank account were in that wallet after all). Then, you remember a time when you left your keys in the car of a busy parking lot. You calm down and don't say anything just then. You look and look and look for the lost wallet, maybe it'll be easy to find. Meanwhile you get ready to cancel the credit cards if you can't find it quickly. Then, you find the wallet in the fridge behind the lettuce. So, do you take advantage and rub it in that your spouse is always losing things and you're always finding them. Or do you take the higher road and hand it to them with a smile. Well, you remember those keys left in the car again, and you smile when you hand it to them. Everybody is happy. The day goes on, you don't have to call the bank. The best part you kept your cool, so there's no hard feelings.
Imagine if every confrontation was handled with the other person's needs in mind. Marriage could be blissful.
Start small today. When your spouse does the next thing you don't like, or when your about to do something your spouse hates - think twice, save a marriage. Be the companion your spouse want and needs you to be.
This is love, the real kind of love. Make your partner's needs become your own needs. In the ideal marriage this goes both ways. It's not something we think about much these days.
Remember that moment when you were little and found a person's wallet. It had a $20 bill in it. You took it to the principal's office. The owner was found and so happy that they gave you $10 back. Then, you both had a great day because of it. Okay, I don't remember that happening to me either. But, I'm sure it has happened to somebody. I know I've done similar things though and they have worked out for the benefit of both people involved.
Well, that's what this ideal marriage is supposed to be like. You find out your spouse has lost his wallet. You first feel like yelling at your spouse for being so irresponsible (I mean the credit cards to your own bank account were in that wallet after all). Then, you remember a time when you left your keys in the car of a busy parking lot. You calm down and don't say anything just then. You look and look and look for the lost wallet, maybe it'll be easy to find. Meanwhile you get ready to cancel the credit cards if you can't find it quickly. Then, you find the wallet in the fridge behind the lettuce. So, do you take advantage and rub it in that your spouse is always losing things and you're always finding them. Or do you take the higher road and hand it to them with a smile. Well, you remember those keys left in the car again, and you smile when you hand it to them. Everybody is happy. The day goes on, you don't have to call the bank. The best part you kept your cool, so there's no hard feelings.
Imagine if every confrontation was handled with the other person's needs in mind. Marriage could be blissful.
Start small today. When your spouse does the next thing you don't like, or when your about to do something your spouse hates - think twice, save a marriage. Be the companion your spouse want and needs you to be.
