Showing posts with label kissing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label kissing. Show all posts

Friday, 14 November 2014

There's (a lot) more to intimacy than kissing...


Too often, we make the mistake of thinking that physical relationships define the intimacy that comes in marriage. This misconception manifests in a lot of ways. Shallow relationships, based only on physical attraction, invariably implode unless they develop into something more in time. People think their marriage is in trouble if they're no longer "satisfied" with their partner, not realizing that the real trouble runs much deeper than a lack of exciting romance. People choose not to marry in the first place, thinking that the physical relationship is the important part anyway. Or they believe some physical relationship can replace the traditional one.

The marriage relationship is really about being intimate, in the Victorian sense of the word. It's about building an enduring friendship, acquiring a deep empathy for someone, leaving your own worries to her and taking on her burdens as your own. It's about magnifying each others' best traits and overlooking weaknesses, of making a safe place for each other. It's about sharing a lot of secrets between you and keeping very few secrets with others. A successful marriage intertwines two lives so tightly that you can't imagine being apart, and your plans always involve your other half.

And yes, the kisses are fun, too.

Lovely LipSense Lips pictured above.

Saturday, 7 June 2014

New News

My friends Ashley and Craig share one of their tips for staying happily married in Ashley's words:

"The first couple months of our marriage my husband would ask me if he was still "new news". I realized this was important to him to feel special and loved and I began to make more of an effort to treat him like I did when we were newly engaged. I did this by greeting him when he got home with a hug, kiss, and big smile! By listening attentively to his interests (even when they are technology related and way over my head). Also, I treat him like new news by still kissing him a lot. Craig treats me like new news by bringing me home a treat he got at the store or at work, contacting me during the day to see how I am doing, and letting me plan our weekends. Treating each other like new news has helped us to stay in love and honestly we fall more and more in love all the time."